Hello

[Lighthouses]

Hello, I have social problem. Thnaks, Michelle

[Sunflower]

What do you mean-can you be more specific?

[Lighthouses]

Hello Sunflower, I am trying to go around the people but my AS has prevented me to do that. Thanks, :rolleyes:

[Dave]

How does it prevent you? Is it a personal choice as it makes you uncomfortable or is it related to the way others may react to you? Just guessing with those two scenarios, so if I'm way off there, just ignore them.

Dave

[Lighthouses]

Hello Dave, Yes, I am trying to social with different people andd I am shy. Thanks, :cool:

[Dave]

My mother is the same way. She is not in the autism spectrum, but I have wondered from time to time. I think her problem lies in self-image and in her expectations of other people. I have never made any friends by intending on doing so, it just happens. My advice to her has been to feel good about who she is and not expect people to run into her life to be her friend. I suffered from shyness years ago, but grew out of it. For me it was my involvement in sports, my acievements and the relationships that resulted because of it. I'm not a psychologist, but I think how we view ourselves is very important, I'm also not in the autism spectrum, be nice if someone who knows about this first hand would respond... Hint, hint..... ;)

[Lighthouses]

Hello Dave, Thank You Very Much!...:rolleyes:

[dannilynn]

hi, just wanted to say my ex husband had or has social problems,but it just considered anxiety disorder he is on xanix i believe it works he may also be bi-polar just my thought!!!!!!!!!!

[Lighthouses]

Hello Dannille, See, I am so shy because of my AS but no matter I try..I really TRY a lot. Thanks, :eek:

[Klovan]

Dear Lighthouses:
Did you try to contact Young Adults Insitute or organization similar to it? They provide great social help for adults with as. I know couple of autistic people who are very happy with their services.

[Lighthouses]

Hello Klovan, I did and they are meeting in August. Thanks, :D :o :p ;) :cool: :rolleyes: :eek:

P.S. That's because I like you!:) :) ;)

[kjorn]

Michelle,

I understand as I have PDD/SID as well. However, I am 40 now and it did not get much better until I hit upon a few things which helped my physically. I still react badly in large groups (5 people or more). It is like I can "feel" peoples presense and in crowds there is too much pressure and all the colors and sounds start to make me dizzy. There is nothing wrong with this unless it starts to prevent you from doing things you want. And in your case, it sounds like it is causing you problems. I don't know where to point you, except maybe ask other AS adults what they do. My two boys are like this and I just rehearse what to say with them so they can repeat it in social situations and gain practice and confidence. We also explain to them why people say the things they do and why they might do certain things. Hopefully, they will be better equipped for adult life and no go into it so "blank." Do you have any suggestions for others trying to understand why it is so hard for you? Best wishes.

[Lighthouses]

Hello Kjorn, because I also have other disablities. Thanks, :rolleyes:

[Mary Kaye]

As you have found out, the internet is a wonderful place for people who are uncomfortable being around new faces to make friends. I bet you will find a lot of friends here. I know I have.

Best of luck to you,
Mary Kaye:)

[Lighthouses]

Hi Marykate, Can we being an pen-pal?..Thanks, Michelle

[sabrina dreams]

your not alone. I was abuse a very young child by my parents and never was around people unilt I was eight .I really couldn't interact with people do to I couldn't relate to them.I was placied in closets for day on ends. Then the state took myself and brother and a sister from the home we were abuse mental by frost homes . never was allowed to play unilt I was 7 years old. After we were adoptied . family life was hard and the kids and peers never came near us do to our behavior from the abuse . and we had learning problem also . I was pickied on and had trouble still being around females . do to the abuse emotionly from my two mothers.I seem to place awall around me all the time.I really don't have any friends just one from 5 grade who stop being friend with every one to help me out. we are very close and talk almost every day. My other friends are my hushand and avery close friend steve who's in the airforce oversea in bagdad since 911 . I miss them dearly .but I never go out or spend time with others in or out of work .I never have anyone talk to me really I'm not that intesting either. I am out going only with people I feel safe with . I know it's sad , but I can't get over it and the years of it. I spend more time with me kids then adults. and clean all the time.
I have seen help for years but they act if I don't understand what happen to my. and I'm alway wrong. but I feel they don't understand me and I 'm not going to do thing to please my parents even if they don't agree of my choices on things.I'm married now . And they still think nothing is wrong with our daughter even after 10 diff. doc say so. they have made comment that are every upseting at time but i take it and say nothing to I don't have to fight with them. so my soical life sucks too. so what I have my kids and husband. mom