Need Quick answer

[uscheadles]

Hi all, just have a quick question! My HFA 6 yo is having a HARD time because we just had his brothers' (NT 8 yo and ADHD 5 yo) birthday parties. Is it ok for us to give "birthday" money or presents to the HFA? Or does he just "need to learn it is not his birthday" as my relatives state? HIS birthday is in December.
Thanks for any response!

[Autismskat]

Hello,
I have two boys. My 11 year old has delays/mild autism, and my youngest is 9 years
old he has severe autism-no speech . When we have birthdays I write him out a story
explaining that it's his brothers birthday. And we are giving him a party. I tell him when
July9th comes you will have your own party. My son uses Facilitated Communication.
We use the pecks and when we need to get a point across we write it out on paper.
You could even show him the calendar and explain that his birthday is in a different month of his own. That worked when my older son was little,we have 3 birthdays in july and his is in october. Well I hope this helps some.Take care.
Autismskat

[Deester]

Funny you mention this.

My son doesn't say anything when we always seem to be showering my daughter with gifts because she did 'something' that was good.

He's pretty good about these things but I know as he gets older his going to want his share. I try to buy doubles when appropiate but because they are different sex it is starting to make a difference in what gets bought.

The social story sounds like the way to go.


Denise

[CarerQuie]

My son is quite happy for the others to have presents on their birthday but wanted a card for Rhodri Day.We gave Rhodri a card and he was happy for Rhys to have all the other cards and presents on his birthday.xx