Hi i am a new member

[LEANN27]

Wow, reading this forum gives me so much hope for my Marquis, my baby is 4 years old was diagnosed with pddnos and is in a pre-k austisic class through the state of nj, he is doing very well considering just a year and half a go he was totally non-verbal child(screaming only) he had awful temper tantrums. this is his second year in this pre-k class (3 teachers to 6 children) and marquis can now say sentences and when ever he wants something (juice, food, potty, etc) he will come to me and tell me. he also knows his colors, numbers and abc's. one big inprovement is that marquis spontanously gives hugs and sometimes kisses but mostly hugs, his teacher as also told me that he now has a friend that he sits by, plays and shares things with, and he is also fully potty trained. however he does still have some of the autistic behaviors for example: i still cant have back and forth conversation with him like how was school today (when i ask this he give me a puzzled look), he doesnt call me mommie and he has tantrums when he cannot gets his way, like if he asks me for a popcicle if i dont get it right then he has a tantrum does anybody have any suggestions it so frustrating and vt mama is correct people dont understand they think your child is a bad child and they either say mean comments or they give you a look like "she needs to spank him" i am sorry that my post is so long this my first time posting and its so good to talk to people who know what you are going thru i am a single mother and emotionally i am exhausted.

[Deester]

Hi and Welcome!

I have a daughter on the spectrum. She was diagnosised just after she turned 2. She's 6 already. My daughter's speech was VERY slow at the begining too. She can ask for things in sentences and is just starting to use the W questions.

She can read simple stuff and is really into letter's and numbers. She can also navigate the computer pretty well. She still has trouble with double clicks.

Try using visuals to cut down on tantrums. Even though my daughter has speech she is so visual that I forget at times to get the pictures out and show her if there is meltdowns.

Welcome and hope to see you around the board.
Denise

[LEANN27]

hi dee, i am so happy that your daughter is making such good progress iam so excited that she is now starting to say the wh questions that is a big improvement
my son is learning how to navigate the mouse he still has a long way to go i am just so happy that there is a home that i come for when it gets rough with my son because nobody seems to understand not even my mom

[Lisa S]

Hi Leann,
What does your son call you? My daughter calls me Lisa even though she understands I am her mother. It started when she heard people call me Lisa when she was in preschool.
Lisa

[LEANN27]

for the most part he doesn't call me anything he will just come and get me sometimes he does call me leAnn but i want him to call me mommie

[mlwear]

Welcome. Sounds like your son has made great progress in a short period of time. That's wonderful. I hope things continue as such.
As far as getting him to call you you Mommy, what would happen if when he came to get you or wanted you to do something if you hesitated until he said "Mommy" (of course, you would need to tell him that is what you are waiting for), then with great praise and hugs do what it is that he is asking?

I, too, wait for the day of a two way conversation with my son about his day. He is 8 (as of yesterday) and only answers questions with a choice of answers. I never know if what he is telling me is accurate. It's sad because I want to know how he is doing at school.

But, he continues to make progress every day.

I'm glad you found this forum. Many nice helpful people here.

[LEANN27]

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As far as getting him to call you you Mommy, what would happen if when he came to get you or wanted you to do something if you hesitated until he said "Mommy" (of course, you would need to tell him that is what you are waiting for), then with great praise and hugs do what it is that he is asking?
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thank you for the tip i am going to try this but one thing i do notice about my son is that if i dont respond right away he starts to tantrum i am trying to teach him that he has to been patience but i dont think he understands

[mlwear]

yeah, I certainly understand the patience and tantrums issue. We are working on what "wait a minute" means.
Maybe when he wants something say what you are doing, like "OK, MOMMY will get you a cup of juice" of course that also reinforces a problem that a lot of kids have of not using pronouns or not using them correctly. It is always such a game of trial and error, isn't it?