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[Ben]

I have three children. My eldest boy is almost nine and has Asperger syndrome. We have two younger children, a girl at 4 and another boy at almost 3. Both of my youngest don't really have any signs of autism although I can't really tell with my girl.

My eldest is becoming increasingly more distressed at his younger siblings. He seems to get really upset and snap into a rage at the slightest things. It has become so intense now that even seeing her upsets him. The trouble is that, being a firery type herself, she now finds it fun to torment him to and I am constantly separating them.

Does any other parents have any experience with their sutistic children and their siblings? I would love to hear some feed back.

Ben
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[StrictNon-Confo]

I would never rule out the distinct probability that she noticed that something riled him up, and has decided she likes to rile him up, and is playing head games with him for her amusement, and his frustration comes from seeing her and knowing that she's all too likely to do it again, and he's tormented simply by the fact of being forced to live with his personal bully, and knows he will get in trouble for defending his rights to be unmolested.

It wasn't my younger sister, but my older sister: I was in the same sort of situation he is in now. My life got much simpler with less stress (from within the family) at home once that older sister moved out. The problem is that the authority figures never get to see the full reality, and the real victim gets treated like they're all at fault for everything, which only makes things that much worse.

I have three children. My eldest boy is almost nine and has Asperger syndrome. We have two younger children, a girl at 4 and another boy at almost 3. Both of my youngest don't really have any signs of autism although I can't really tell with my girl.

My eldest is becoming increasingly more distressed at his younger siblings. He seems to get really upset and snap into a rage at the slightest things. It has become so intense now that even seeing her upsets him. The trouble is that, being a firery type herself, she now finds it fun to torment him to and I am constantly separating them.

Does any other parents have any experience with their sutistic children and their siblings? I would love to hear some feed back.

Ben
www.autism-support-community.com (http://www.autism-support-community.com)

[Ben]

I see your point. But I know my son.... intricately. And I can tell when he is being irrational and when he is simply being tormented.

My post is related to him being irrational. Recently he seems to be tormented by everything, not just his little sister. It is like he is sick of being in his own skin. But he is particularly tormented by his sister.

I think he is going through a phase of frustration and his sister gives him a good reason to vent.

Thanks for you reply though. :)

Ben
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[lacey@alex]

I can relate to your problem comepletly. I have four children ages 8, 7, 5 and 11 months. My 8 year old has Bipolar, ADD/ADHD and Tourettes. My 7 year old is Severely Autistic and has Epilepsy and ADHD. SO far my 5 year old and 11 month old daughter are normal. I have a difficult time with my oldest son with his rages and fits of anger. One minute he's the sweetest little boy and then you blink and he's like a tiger ready to fight. It's awfull. My 7 year old is
quite a handful with agressive behaviors but isn't intentionatly trying to harm anyone. But my 5 year old likes to imitate his older siblings for attention and to get what he wants. But when he isn't around them he acts fairly normal.