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angelinred
06-28-2006, 10:51 PM
Steven is only 6 years old but, is extremely strong and wirily. Scholastically, he is at a 1st grade level. But, as for his social skills, he is still a toddler. He throws tantrums and has complete melt downs when he doesn't get his way. He kicks, hits, pulls hair, scratches, screeches and occasionally bites. He is completely out of control. I can’t physically restrain him anymore. He is too strong for me. Only his father can swoop him up and take him out of the area where he will eventually calm down on his own or with some threats or bribes.

He is regressing. He has been on the GFCF diet for years now. We haven’t changed a thing. I can’t understand it. He doesn’t listen or come back when called anymore. Not even for his father when he gets stern with him. He has no understanding of personal space. He will walk right over you if you are in his way. He truly is in his own little world. The strangest thing is, he knows he is being bad. You can actually see him contemplating his next move. I’ve been reading the other message boards about their fascination with water. Steven has it too. Thank God he knows how to swim.

My greater concern is, “Why is he always trying to escape?” Our house is locked down like a fortress. I wear keys around my neck to open each door in my house to keep him from getting outside and to keep him from getting into something that will create havoc.

He has no fear. He will occasionally slip through my grip and run. He won’t come back if called. I have to chase him down. He pays no attention to oncoming cars or other dangers. He just takes off for no reason. It doesn’t seem like he has an agenda or any idea of where he is going. Can anyone else relate to this? What do you do? What do I do when I absolutely can not physically manage him anymore?

Autismskat
06-29-2006, 12:23 PM
Hello,
I can relate to your situation. My son Josh did the same things for years. We had really hold on to him where ever we went, we stayed home alot because of his behaviors. Almost two years ago we joined an agency, Progressive Resources. They focus and work on these behaviors. Both of my boys attend a play based group once a week. Siblings of autistic children learn ways to cope with embarassment or other feelings due to the fact their brother or sister has special needs all the time. Then at the same time I attend the parent group, there's lots to talk about. Maybe you could find something like this in your area. Its really helped our family tremendously! Joshua now will walk along with us without me or my husband holding on to him. He doesn't throw tantrums as much unless hes in pain. Believe me I've been put through the ringer many times. These kids do get better as they get older. Take care.
Jannette

angelinred
07-02-2006, 11:03 PM
thank you autismkat for your reply. i will take in consideration what you have said. i'm so glad i'm not alone.