Can someone help me with these questions [Archive]

channing28105

12-19-2006, 08:11 PM

StrictNon-Confo

12-20-2006, 12:53 AM

My name is Channing. I am a 35 years old adult female with the Aspergers kind of autism I have some questions my questions are:

1. I have a major concern I am haveing a hard time with finding places to live because of the fact I have the Aspergers kind of autism it seems like everytime I look at group homes like in a DDA group home the people in the DDA group home are a lot lower functioning than me the people in the group home do not have a job and go to a day program- I do not want to live in an apartment because I
1. Do not know how to cook- I need help with cooking
Swallow your pride and ask one or more patient people to instruct you on the basics, and then practice, practice, practice: my lower-functioning sister (she's high-functioning autistic, I'm Asperger's, same age as you, she's older) while not perfect, can cook well enough to survive quite well on her cooking alone, though her limited diet is less than healthy that she chooses otherwise. I am a quite accomplished cook myself, and was adventurous at a young age, and have even figured out how to cook thick-crust pizza on top of the stove, as well as a complete recipe of chocolate chip cookies, using a 10" skillet and a tight, heavy lid (very low heat!!!). I've seen my sister quite often mangle food by forgetting such things as flour in homemade brownies, for example, which ended up created brownies that looked like a black/brown-colored moonscape :P

2. Need help with transportation
You need to be more precise about this: are you unable to deal with driving because of sensory issues, or something like that? Your typing and language skills are more than sufficient to give me the impression that you are quite capable of driving in terms of required vision and coordination as well as reasoning. I am certain they give driver's licenses to many people that are much lower on the scale of intelligence and competence to do it :)

3. Need activities to do like being able to go on a trip, being able to go to the movies, being able to go Swimming, being able to go bowling, and being able to get some exercise
Church groups, depending on the church and the group, often do such things, and if they're truly practicing what they preach, unless you are a nasty piece of work around other people, they should be inclusive. If not, they're lousy people anyway. Granted, they may not think you're the life of the party, but they probably could use a balancing force anyway. :)

4. Need adult people to talk to at all times
I refer you to the answer to question 3, and perhaps find someone through church that needs/wants a roommate, and getting out of the group home mindset altogether. I can't promise it will work, however, but you never know if you don't try.

5. Do not want to be totally unsupervised 24 hours a day
Again, a regular roommate can help in this situation, while giving you time alone that you need: if I couldn't have time alone, I'd go bonkers, to put it mildly.

What am I going to do about liveing because My parents are in their 60s My mom is 65 years old my dad is 69 years old My parents are not going to live forever and I do not want to become a ward of the state of North Carolina where I live?

Ask your case worker what skills they think you need to work on to become as self-sufficient as possible, and find someone to teach you those skills that you can't learn on your own. Make a plan, and suffer the pain and embarrassment that goes along with learning to do things you need to do, which is much easier if you have someone around to save you from making really stupid mistakes. To get through everyday life, you need a certain amount of self-confidence and backbone to assert yourself where you need to get things done. You can't be wishy-washy in what you want: you need to be clear on what you want, and what you are going to do to achieve the desired outcome. The people that appreciate those that are wishy-washy are the ones that want to take advantage of you: people that appreciate those that are decisive, while not all are honest and good, tend to be much more useful in practice.

2. I would like to meet some Adults that have the Aspergers kind of Autism where I live in North Carolina is there any way I can meet some Adults that have the Aspergers kind of where I live?
Have you posted on other sites for Aspies online and asked for those local to you? I'm at the far side of the continent from you, myself. Google can be your friend, if you use it correctly. I'd suggest you enter the search terms of: North Carolina Aspergers groups

3. Has anyone ever thought of getting a group home for All Adult people with Aspergers kind of Autism in North Carolina where I live?
Again, use google or another search engine. However, I personally doubt that all want to live in a group home, because that'd drive them nuts: I know it'd drive me nuts to live in such a situation. Personally, the only roommates I want to deal with are the kind I would be married to, and what often is a natural result of such roommates :)

If you know the answers please message me
I think it may be better to post this for all the world to see so others may find it on here, if they search.